Which type of single are you?
Whether you are single by choice or by providence, no one should feel left out on this day of love. Because love doesn’t only come from a lover, unlike what these stupid, cliché love stories, attention-seeking couples, and profit-seeking companies (no offense) make you feel more than once a year.
We all feel left out and alone, even when we’re with our friends and family. Let me tell you, that’s completely normal. But those heart-shaped balloons and PDA-ing couples aren’t really helping you forget, are they? You can’t help but be bitter when flowers and chocolates are all you see in stores, or your friends post sweet pictures of them and their lovers on Facebook. It’s like they’re shoving it in your face that they’re happily in a relationship, and you’re not.
How do I know that you’re single? Well, you wouldn’t be reading this article on the most-awaited (or dreaded) “Day of Love” if you weren’t, would you?
Cheers to you, you strong independent human.
Here’s my attempt to make you feel better and help you realize that you’re not alone on Valentine’s Day.
To the one who has never loved before,
You’ve probably heard this a lot before, from your friends, your family, or maybe you’ve told yourself this a thousand times, but it’s time for you to believe it. It really isn’t the end of the world, and he or she really is just out there somewhere.
Right now, what’s important is you. And you should focus on loving yourself and spending time with the people around you who clearly care and love you just the way you are. Of course, it’s also vital for you to help out others who feel the same way you do. They deserve your help, too.
You should already know that being single doesn’t have to mean that you’re alone. Don’t let these overrated, heart-shaped balloons change the way you feel about yourself. You’re beautiful and amazing just the way you are, and no guy or girl can validate that.[pullquote]You should already know that being single doesn’t have to mean that you’re alone[/pullquote]
You know who can, though?
To the one who has loved but is afraid to try again,
I won’t blame you for being afraid to give love another shot.
You might be broken from a newly-ended relationship or still hung over on one that ended years ago. Either way, you still can’t seem to bring yourself to trust in love again.
I know a lot of people who are like you, and I can see that you still haven’t moved on. You miss the feeling of being in love, but not the tragedy of getting hurt.
Take Valentine’s Day as an opening to re-evaluate your thoughts on the L-word. Are you sure there isn’t another chance for you and your broken heart? See those cute couples giggling in a restaurant, a bouquet on the side? Don’t you miss the feeling of being in love and being loved back?
Chances are, any relationship you enter into won’t be the same as the last one. So just give it another try, but start small, and who knows, you might just start believing in love again.[pullquote]Chances are, any relationship you enter into won’t be the same as the last one. So just give it another try[/pullquote]
To the one who is loved by a lot, but cannot seem to find the one
You’re desired by a lot of people, they think you’re perfect, and sometimes you just wish you could tell them that you aren’t.
There are a lot of guys lining up to win your heart or a lot of girls crushing on you and wishing they were yours, but you just can’t seem to give any of them the time of day. Your standards are too high and you’re afraid that if you decide to go on this conquest called love, it might not be perfect or your expectations might not be met.
Well, this love month, start going on adventures and stop over-thinking about everything. Don’t expect too much because some things will really end up disappointing you, but don’t lower your standards because they’re important as well.
You might be having a lot of flings or char-chars, but you make sure none of them get too serious because you’re afraid of being attached. Well, stop being a coward and take the risk.
Love isn’t always butterflies and rainbows, there will always be pain and confusion, but that’s part of it. Don’t try to escape it. If you won’t hang on for the full ride, then you’re better off not buying the ticket in the first place.[pullquote]Love isn’t always butterflies and rainbows, there will always be pain and confusion, but that’s part of it[/pullquote]
To the one who has tried to love again, but failed,
It’s okay, love has misfortune and it doesn’t always end in happily ever-after. That’s part of it. There’s a reason why you broke up, and it meant that the relationship wasn’t working out anymore. You might have felt like it was a total loss, but soon you’ll realize that it was for the better.
A friend once told me that failed relationships are a good thing because they put you a step closer to your true love.
He believed that every one of us have a destined number of break-ups in a lifetime, and before we find the love of our lives, we have to go through these painful break-ups one by one. Just think that that break-up placed you one step closer to finding your true love.
Some of us, have one or two, others have ten or fifteen. It doesn’t matter what your number is, what matters is that you don’t give up.
Since it’s Valentine’s Day, take this as a chance to make your heart beat for someone again. Who knows, maybe that last break-up was your last one. It’s never too late!
To the one who has lost trust in love,
How many break-ups has it been? Too many to count?
I feel you.
How many people broke you and ripped you apart to shreds and didn’t care?
I’m so sorry.
It might not only even be relationships that made you swear off love altogether. Did your parents have a toxic relationship, too? Did everyone you know also have bad experiences when it came to love? Oh honey, no wonder you want to hurl every time the Month of Love is coming around the corner.
I don’t blame you, no one blames you. We’ve all been there. You’re scarred and broken, and you want nothing to do with love and relationships anymore. You’re planning on living by yourself and leaving your fortune to your ten cats. That sounds tempting, really, but come on, it’s probably not going to turn out the same as last time, trust me.
It’s time for you to move on from your previous nightmares about relationships and stop being bitter. It’s time for a new adventure.
To the one who has a lover but is far away,
Yes, you still count, don’t deny it. You may be in a relationship, but as far as you guys are concerned, you’re spending Valentine’s Day apart.
Long Distance Relationships are the hardest on Valentine’s Day because you’re supposed to be spending and celebrating this day with someone, but they’re not with you.
It’s hard when you think about them because you miss them so much and wish more than anything that you’re in each other’s arms, but you’re not. Sometimes texts, phone calls, and video chats just don’t cut it anymore. It’s a different feeling when you can actually hold and touch them right then and there.
That’s why you feel extra lonely this Valentine’s Day, don’t you?
Don’t worry, you can still plan something special with your lover, and it doesn’t even have to involve your usual “dates”, which need technology to work.
Write him/her a special letter, maybe add in a couple of chocolates or two, and send it through snail mail. That way, you won’ spend too much, but you can still do something special on Valentine’s Day.
To the one who isn’t loved back by the one they love,
Ah yes, the unrequited love. We all go through it at some point. Some experience this with all the people they love, and it’s just the most painful.
Imagine loving someone so much you’d do anything for them but they only see you as a friend. Or giving all you can for the person of your dreams but they can’t even seem to bring themselves to notice you.[pullquote]Imagine loving someone so much you’d do anything for them but they only see you as a friend. Or giving all you can for the person of your dreams but they can’t even seem to bring themselves to notice you.[/pullquote]
I feel you.
Half of the world feels you.
Not being loved back just sucks big time.
Ask yourself, do you really have a chance with this person or should you just move on and focus your attention to someone who is feeling that good old unrequited love towards you? Who knows, maybe you’re too busy looking at the wrong person that you ignore others who are willing to do anything for you.
Loving someone continuously even when you know you don’t stand a chance is great, I admire your dedication, but I read somewhere that too much love is poison, especially when that love is not returned.
Be careful and don’t lose yourself.
To the one who loves but is afraid of rejection,
You’re probably head over heels for someone, but you’re afraid to make the move because you don’t want to be turned down. You’d rather just sit there, replaying “what if’s” in your mind, but you’ve decided that there’s no way you’re going to risk being rejected and humiliated.
Stop being a coward and do something before someone else does. Chances are, your guy or girl has tons of admirers out there, and if you don’t act now then someone else will and steal the human of your dreams and there’s nothing you can do to stop it because you were too scared.
This Valentine’s Day is your chance! What are you waiting for? What if he or she is just waiting for you to tell him or her how you really feel, but you were too much of a chicken to try?
You might have been rejected before, that’s why you’re afraid to try again, but doing nothing will also get you nowhere. Try and try again, and maybe, just maybe, your courage and determination will pay off.
Take one step and you could end up moving mountains.
To the one who can live without love,
Shout out the strong, independent humans who need no man or woman in their lives. You inspire us everyday!
You have proved to the world that love isn’t everything and that there is so much more to focus on. I don’t know how you did it, but I sure am proud of you.
Your independence is attractive enough, and your self-worth is defined by you alone. You’re driven, passionate, successful, and organized, and you did it all without a man or a woman.
Oh but love is great too, you know.
Yes, we can all choose to be alone, but more and more people choose not to. Love lets you evolve into a greater person; even pain does that, too.
Give it a shot, and give yourself a chance to be carefree again.
Don’t be afraid to fall in love, just make sure that someone will catch you in the end. But don’t worry, if things don’t work out, you can always catch yourself.
You’re independent like that.
To the one who is with someone, but is not in love,
Yes, you’re considered single too, because you’re living a lie. You’re in a relationship, yes, but you didn’t put your heart into it. So what’s the point?
I don’t know what you’re still staying in the relationship for, maybe it’s money or guilt or desperation, but I wish you’d do yourself a favor and be brave enough to leave. Stop fooling yourself and your partner because you’re only prolonging the agony.
Maybe in the beginning there was love and you wished that it lasted but it didn’t.
Set yourself free this Valentine’s Day, it’s time for you to be true to yourself and honest to your lover. If you’re afraid that you’re not going to find another one, don’t be. There are plenty of people out there who would want the love you were unable to give. All you have to do is take the plunge and you’ll be just fine.
Valentine’s Day may be the most overrated holiday in the whole calendar year. Technically, it’s not even a holiday. It’s just a normal day that was considered special because some guy named Valentine did something that made an impact in society or in the hearts of humanity, I’m not really even sure.
Who cares, right?
Some people even celebrate Valentines without really knowing the real reason for its origin, or at least how it started, how it came to be, and why people suddenly go crazy for it.
It’s the day lovers have an excuse (or are forced) to spend sweet, quality time with each other and give each other cliché presents and do sappy, romantic things together. There’s nothing wrong with that, in fact people do it all the time, even on regular days. It’s how one can show affection and love for their partners, when they can make each other feel special and loved and wanted and all those other things that we overthink about.
But on this day, the 14th of February, the most awaited day of the girlfriends and the most dreaded day of the boyfriends (just kidding), this day is supposed to be special, yes. But so can any other regular day be.
The reason why Valentine’s Day is so toxic for the ones who are single is because it’s an event that mocks them in the face. I mean, they see couples being sweet all the time on normal days, yes. But on this dreaded day, Valentine’s Day, they’re all over the place. Girls are carrying roses and bouquets and pink-colored, heart-shaped boxes with their boyfriends smiling alongside them, stroking their backs or their arms around their shoulder or waist.
They’re out and surrounding everyone, mocking not only the ones who are single, but even those in relationships but can’t go all-out on their celebration because of money problems or distance. Of course, we can’t blame these cheesy couples for wanting to flaunt to the world their love for each other, but we hope they’d be more cautious.
Anyway, I’m not here to attack all these couples. Kudos to them for braving relationships and getting through all the hardships of being in one. Because after all that, love really is greater than any fight or misunderstanding, and that’s the reason why some couples stay together for a long time.
But I’m here for the singles, who need a voice this Valentine’s Day because they tend to be forgotten and overlooked. Please remember that they’re special too. They should get Single’s promos on Valentine’s Day, too, and anyone who tells me otherwise is either in a relationship or a real mean person.
Honestly, there’s nothing wrong with being single.
It’s actually quite liberating. I don’t know why people complain so much about it.
You’re single, you’re free to do whatever you want without anyone telling you you can’t.
You won’t always have to wait for someone to text or call. You don’t spend money on dates and you can buy so much more for yourself. No one gets a hold of your Facebook account but you. You decide for yourself about everything. You have so much more time for sleep. You can focus on the more important things in life, like your studies, friends, and family.
What am I saying?
I’m saying you can also celebrate Valentine’s Day being single just as much as those people in a relationship, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Here’s to you being an independent and self-loving human, gain all the love and medals in the world!